Motivation

How do I Stop Thinking I am a Loser?

If you think you’re a loser? Do you feel inferior because you’ve failed so miserably in life? If you did, I’m here to assure you that you’re not alone with your feelings. We’ve both been there, and it’s a normal part of life to experience ups and downs.

And I agree that feeling like a loser is the same as a lack of motivation, it is not a matter of whether it will happen, rather, it is a question of what you ought to do and how to deal with it when it does.

Extraordinary individuals seem to be able to gain immense success in life while avoiding the sensation of becoming a loser. They seem to be very self-assured, and anything they do seems to lead to more and greater achievement in life.

This is not the case, and I’m here to tell you why.

“Every Successful  man has a lot of failed years behind him.”

Good people are human beings much like the rest of us. They, too, have experienced losses and may feel as if they are losers in life.

The only distinction is that good people know how to deal with their emotions and have the knowledge to know what to do when they do. And that’s exactly what I’m going to share with you today in this blog. Here are ten ways to avoid feeling like a loser and get back on track in life

Stop comparing yourself to other people:

People who are continually comparing themselves to others are one of the most frequent causes of feeling like a loser.

You may feel dejected when you equate yourself to those who are faring much better in life or at work than you. Consider this: seeing your buddies drive a nicer car than you, flying around the world, getting married, and leading a happy life can make you feel like you’re just “not there” yet.

As a result, you should refrain from comparing yourself to others.

We are also distinct individuals.

And every one of us follows our own “timeline”. Some people became the CEO of a firm at age 50, some began their own business at age 25, and some people proceed  at age 40 but became a wealthy entrepreneur at age 48.

I want you to know that you are not required to equate yourself to others. Everyone has their own life to live.

The trick is to figure out what you really want and to keep going after it. You are a winner as long as you are going on and making progress.

“Instead of comparing yourself to others, you should compare yourself to your older self”.

Compare yourself to yourself a day, a week, a month, and a year apart. Is it any easier for you? Have you made any progress?

If you said yes, congrats; now is the time to practice even harder and bring in even more effort. If the answer is no, figure out when and where you can change each day and get better.

“Have you ever seen a disgruntled horse? Have you ever seen a bird with a bad case of the blues? Birds and horses aren’t sad because they aren’t out to please other birds and horses.”

                                    ~Dale Carnegie said it best:

Keep track of your accomplishments and success:

Examining your victories is one way to avoid looking like a failure. You find you don’t do much in life or at work, but you sound like a loser.

Think of all of your victories and accomplishments.

I’m sure you’ve won more battles than the majority of people.

The fact that you are reading this article demonstrates that you have made a deliberate attempt to improve your life. You’re still winning; what you have to do now is keep winning.

Every day, make a list of what you’ve accomplished, major and tiny. Make a list of all the positive things that happened to you that day. Take a few minutes to write in a notebook or start a personal blog to keep track of your accomplishments.

When you’re feeling down or like a loser, look over this long list of your accomplishments and be proud of yourself.

You feel like a failure and you just look at the negative side of it. You dwell on all of your defeats rather than all of your victories.

This is why you should keep track of all your successes and wins.

Recognize that you aren’t the only one going through this:

Yes, you’re not the only one who feels this way. There are people who have endured even more difficult circumstances who have thrived and succeeded beyond it.

This is what you need to do if you’re feeling down and out. It’s normal to feel like you’re not making enough progress or like you’re losing the game of life.

You will feel like a loser if you have worked hard for years but have no tangible outcomes to show for it, then you see someone who is more successful than you.

This is a common reaction, but it does not mean you are the only one who has experienced it.

Many individuals have faced even more difficult circumstances, but they have persevered and continue to press on.

This is the kind of spirit you ought to cultivate.

Helen Keller’s wise words strike a chord with me:

“I was crying because I didn’t have any shoes until I saw a guy who didn’t have any feet.”

You will believe that life is unjust and that whatever you do is paying off before you meet someone who has faced a situation much worse than yours; only then can you see that your situation is manageable and that you can deal with it.

As a result, please keep in mind that we all face different challenges in life. Some people are dealing with more serious issues than you are.

But there’s no reason to feel sorry for yourself. What you have to do now is figure out how to deal with the challenges and get back on your feet.

Don’t be so pessimistic about the case:

When you’re down and out, one thing you would avoid doing is catastrophizing the case.

Not making it sound as if it’s a big deal, so it’ll just make it harder.

When you struggle at something, you don’t want to catastrophize by doing something like, “I know I’m a loser,

that’s why I fail,” or “It’s not working out, and now I’m lost.”

The words you used had an impact on your mind. When you convince yourself you’re a loser, your mind will dwell on the word “loser” and come up with all kinds of excuses to back up your point.

Rather than exacerbating the issue, either stop saying mean things about yourself or change the language and tone with which you speak to yourself.

“I know this is tough, but I can do it,” or “I can fail now, but I won’t fail forever,” or “This is only a little challenge from the Universe, and I’m not giving up,” tell yourself.

Change the way you act and speak about yourself. Everything will gradually improve if you shift the attention and avoid catastrophizing.                             

Speak with someone who has been there before:

Another excellent way to conquer adversity is to speak with someone who has been through it. It will make you feel better and you will remember that everyone has been before you and succeeded.

For example, if your company fails and you are now bankrupt, speak to someone who has been in a similar position before to see how they dealt with it.

It will provide you with motivation and suggestions for dealing with the situation. You’ll feel a lot happier now that you’ve found a solution.

Plus, knowing that someone has been in your shoes and overcome adversity gives you the confidence to believe that if they can do it, so can you.

 It, in a nutshell, gives you confidence.

If you can’t meet someone, you can still read books. Read inspiring novels, biographies of famous individuals, self growth books, among other similar titles.

The more you read, the more you’ll realize that going through difficult times is a necessary part of life. It’s unavoidable.

Most significantly, you will realize that mistakes aid in the development of your character. So don’t feel sorry for yourself if you fail, because failure gives you power and development.

6. Conjure up a worst-case situation:

What if you don’t have enough books to read and no one to look to for help? So, please ask yourself this question and get yourself out of the destructive thought-cycle:

“What is the worst that can happen?” says the narrator.

You’ve always hit rock bottom because you feel like a loser.

There’s nothing there that can make you feel like an even bigger loser. There’s nothing to lose and anything to win.

Consider this: anytime you feel like a failure, it’s because you haven’t produced any positive performance. And all you have to do now is take a leap of faith, obey your spirit, and chase your dreams.

Since you are now at the bottom, you have nothing to lose. So, why not go all out when the reward outweighs the risk of failure?

When you consider the worst-case scenario, you’ll always discover that the worst-case scenario isn’t all that grim.

You are, after all, still living. You have the option to start over. You will make new friends even though you miss all your old ones. If you lose, simply learn to deal with it. It provides you with opportunities that other people will never consider.

But, what might be the worst-case scenario?

Don’t worry about it; just do it.

Get some exercise, participate in athletics, and do everything you like:

Breaking the pessimistic thought habit may also be as simple as walking out of the situation and doing something different.

When you’re feeling down, do some cardio, go to the gym, run 10 miles, play basketball, or do whatever you like.

You ought to change the thinking to avoid focusing on the negative thought. You shift your attention on something else as you want to do something else.

It’s not like you’re attempting to avoid the reality of the situation; rather, you’d like to take a break from it and return to it later.

You want to refresh your mind and soul so that when you return to life, you can come up with new ideas or perspectives on things.

Re-challenge yourself by setting new targets:

So you think you’re a loser? Don’t worry; just start again by setting new targets and re-challenging yourself.

If you believe you have failed in life and that whatever you do is taking you to better land, you have two options:

  • First and foremost, realize that you are a loser and behave accordingly.
  • Instead, you should develop your courage, test yourself, and set new targets.

Which one is you like to do?

At the end of the day, making a decision is easy. Nobody likes to be a loser; instead, they want to succeed.

We just want to live a great life and be the best at everything we do. We despise losing and we despise failing.

Failure and errors, on the other hand, are unavoidable because they provide us with valuable insight and guidance that allows us to improve and become more deserving of success.

As a result, choose to climb again when you lose. Set fresh and more difficult targets because becoming a failure or failing hasn’t made you any wiser.

One of my favorite Mark Twain quotes is:

“In twenty years, you’ll be more embarrassed with the things you didn’t do than the ones you did.” So let go of the shackles. Sailing away from the safe harbor is a good idea. Take advantage of the trade winds in your sails.

“Explore, dream, and learn.”

You’ll be more disappointed in yourself for the things you didn’t do than for the ones you did. As a result, find the confidence to start anew. Set new goals for yourself and push yourself to achieve them.

Seek assistance and work to better yourself:

You would never feel like a loser if you are positive. When you feel like a loser, it indicates that you lack trust.

As a result, if you want to get rid of the bad feeling, you must improve your confidence. Seeking advice and improving yourself is an important way to boost your motivation.

The older you become, the more self-assured you can become. And the less you sound like a loser, the more optimistic you are.

People who lack trust and believe they are a loser or a disappointment. They believe they are worthless. They believe they are inferior, and that whatever they do is worthwhile.

As a result, focus on your self-assurance. Boost your talents and experience by learning new things. The higher you get, the less likely you are to be defeated.

Plan on changing yourself every day. Reading books, studying, learning, and, most importantly, honing your talents are all good things to do. Every day, do anything to move on.

Recognize that tomorrow is still a new day:

You must remember that there is still a new beginning if you want to avoid feeling like a loser. To put it another way, no matter how bad things are, you can still start again.

People who are successful are hopeful, believing that the future will still be better than the present. This is why they started enterprises, made capital market investments, and formed corporations.

Consider this: if you believe the economy is about to fail, will you still invest in the stock market or launch a new business? You won’t be able to.

People who are successful expect that things will improve. And if the economy does fail, it will eventually recover, and things will return to normal, if not better.

Take a look at the past. We also increased the quality of our lives over hundreds of years. We are always changing and getting richer, from writing letters to submitting instant tweets, from hunting animals to dining in high-end restaurants, and from generational experience to university education.

As a result, you don’t have to remain pessimistic on how it would work out because they would inevitably improve.

Make no attempt to make yourself sound like a loser. You must realize that tomorrow is still a new day, and you have the ability to improve your life.

“The challenge you’re having now is helping you build the power you’ll need in the future.”

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Final Thoughts:

It’s normal to feel like a loser or a disappointment at times. It is unavoidable that humans are emotional creatures. It makes us feel like we’re failing and we want to equate ourselves to people who are doing much better than us.

It does not, however, imply that you are a loser. You may be losing right now, but you are not a loser indefinitely until you want to be.

I hope the ten suggestions above will assist you in solving the current loser mindset. You’ll be invincible until you get rid of this dreadful feeling, and what doesn’t destroy you makes you stronger.

All you have to do now is focus on little victories every day. It will help you gain traction, and if you stick with it, major wins will follow.

Take one tiny step per day and you will finally arrive at your destination.

AbdulSamad

Hi, I am admin of this Solived.com blog, my name is Abdul Samad, aim from Pakistan. I have student in 12th class, and I am 19 years old, I am an IT Expert. I have nearby 4-5 years experience in many of computer and IT field.

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